When you fall pregnant it’s a special time for you and your partner, and everyone else in your family and close group of friends and colleagues and extended friends and observant strangers who comment on your growing belly – apparently.
So when you decide to find out the gender of your baby at the 20 week scan, of course the public think they have the right to now too.
She has asked, "For those of you in a similar boat, how did you go about not telling people? Because surely people will ask. Did you give a little fib and say you decided not to find out? Or did you flatly say that information was not being shared. If the latter, how did they take that (particularly family members)? Was anyone upset/offended? Any tips/advice appreciated"
Many people said to be carefeul because those close to you will be offended.
We are doing this. Found out in the beginning of January and are telling people at the shower at the end of March.
People are SO OFFENDED. If I could go back, I would absolutely say we don't know the gender. People at work are constantly trying to "trick" me into slipping up and telling them, my MIL is laying on a huge guilt trip, it is a giant pain in the ass. I get that people are excited and just want to know, but I am really starting to get annoyed that they won't just respect our wishes and wait another 6 weeks.
So I know it's a bit of a lie, but based on my experience, I'd advise you to just say you don't know. Much easier that way. - erinarian
Sydney mother-to-be, Katana Smith says, "I think it's instinct that makes people ask 'do you know what you're having' almost as soon as they hear you're pregnant.
"We made the decision to find out, but we also decided we wouldn't tell anyone the sex of our baby. For us, it's an exciting secret we have between just my husband and myself.
"It's one of the hardest secrets I've ever had to keep, but I also love it. People have their own theories on what they think we are having and it makes me smile because they're all so sure they know. I have to say, some of them are right, some of them are not, but we also know that they'll all be happy either way.
"For us, finding out wasn't about a desire to have one gender or another, it was probably our own impatience and wanting to get to know our little baby as soon as possible."