One of the hardest times I’ve experienced as a mother was when a family member compared my child to my sister’s child.
My son is a busy three-year-old boy and sometimes has a hard time listening, which my husband and I are working on everyday. It was over the phone and I had to cut the conversation short because I was on the verge of tears. I felt like a terrible parent. Their words had left a mark on my heart that I will most likely never forget.
Other peoples actions and words can sometimes cause us to doubt our parenting techniques.
I received a call not ten minutes later and my family member apologised. I instantly forgave them. Words can easily slip the tongue and no one is perfect. However, this mistake can be avoided.
Instead of judging someone, a simple compliment or word of affirmation can make a HUGE positive impact.
Always focus on how to positively affect someone’s life instead of offering unsolicited advice. I know when people tell me my son is sweet, or that it is normal for him to be busy, it makes me feel like I’m doing the right thing as a mum. I am once again reminded that my kid is going to be, well, a kid. I know my son better than anyone, and his kind heart and vibrant energy makes me proud everyday. But it makes me even happier that others notice how awesome my child is, because after all, aren’t all children really awesome? (And aren’t all mothers and fathers really great for the love that they give their kids?)
If we just loved and supported each other without passing judgement, motherhood would be more enjoyable and less competitive.
LISTEN: Robin Bailey and Bec Sparrow take a look how and why exactly we’ve all become so rude. Post continues after audio.
I want to bring my son to McDonald’s occasionally and let him play in the germ infested play place without being judged.