By JEFF BOGLE
First it’s this…
“Oh man, you’re having a girl? Dude, you’re in trouble!”
And then it’s all of this…
“Oh, wait until they are crawling!”
“Oh, wait until they are walking!”
“Oh, wait until the terrible twos.”
“Oh, wait until they start talking!”
“Oh, wait until they start talking back!”
“Oh man, you’re having another girl? Dude, you’re in trouble!”
“Oh, wait until they want a cell phone!”
“Oh, wait until the eye rolling!”
“Oh, wait until they like boys!”
“Oh, wait until the tween years!”
“Oh, wait until middle school/high school/college!”
“Oh, wait until they get want to get married!”
Here’s a little secret, fellas, the one they don’t tell you at the sports bar or in the Mummy and Me classes you aren’t invited to attend: You can go right ahead and forget all that crap. All of it.
I have a simple, four-word message to all dads of daughters, especially guys who are just now starting out on this journey, the guys welcoming newborn baby girls into their lives.
It is a message I’ve taken to actually saying out loud to dads I see with very young girls by their side — and if you know me at all, you know talking to strangers about anything remotely related to parenting (or, um, anything at all) is not a strong suit of mine.
But I’ve jumped that personal introvert hurdle because it’s crucial that dads receive a counterweight to balance out all the BS macho guy talk they will hear in regards to their daughter(s) and their role as dad to a daughter: It only gets better.
Yeah, it gets challenging. No sh*t, Sherlock. Parenting isn’t always Pinterest-perfect cupcakes and Instagram-worthy rainbows, but why would you want it that way, anyway? What a colossal bore to have everything scrubbed and sanitised, silver spoons and phony-smile photo packages. Challenging is good! Entering into challenging situations makes us think, evolve, grow, change, get better — and helps us find new ways to love the people we adore so much already.