Miscarriage makes people uncomfortable. It has been swept under the rug for so long that we now find ourselves in a position where, as a society, there is a lack of education and understanding about how to support someone whose baby has died.
Baby death makes people uncomfortable. It’s a reverse of the natural order, and we find when people don’t know what to say, they say nothing — but that silence can be deafening for our community. It tells bereaved parents they need to keep their loss to themselves, like a shameful secret they need to hide. It isolates them and can exacerbate their grief.
There is also a common misconception that after a very short time, you are recovered from your miscarriage and ready to 'move on.'
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We have found the complete opposite from speaking with our community: we see that to the bereaved parent, this is the death of a much-wanted baby, which can have a profound and lasting effect for many years. Just imagine — the very throught of falling pregnant again because you so desperately want a baby, but being absolutely terrified of experiencing another miscarriage.