Everyone said we were mad going for a second child so soon. And we knew that. But it still didn’t stop us.
When we decided to try for a second baby, our first was six months old and all we knew was a six-month-old’s behaviour. We knew ‘in theory’ what a toddler was like, but we hadn’t yet experienced OUR child as a toddler.
Don’t get me wrong, it was the best decision we’ve ever made. We fell pregnant when our first was just eight months. Our children will grow up close in age, exactly like we wanted, and I hope that means closeness on many levels. But having two kids under 17 months was a shock to the system, to say the least.
Our first, a boy, was 17 months old when his sister was born seven weeks ago. If I had to describe my first few weeks of life as mum to two kids under 18 months in one word it would be WOAH.
Before I go on, here are some facts about our situation: my husband works 12 hour days, our toddler won’t play by himself and is incapable of ‘gentle’ around his sister (he’s a little dictator, as boys tend to be at that age), our newborn ‘snack feeds’ and has reflux, our boy hates staying in and we have no family help. So, the first few weeks after my husband went back to work went a little like this:
Day 1: “I’ve totally got this” (spring in my step, optimistic!)
Day 2: Crying into my cereal from exhaustion (and it’s only JUST begun?!)
Day 3: “I’m getting there, this isn’t too bad…”
Day 4: “This is WAY harder than I thought it would be.”
Day 5: “How do other mums make this look so easy???”
Day 6: “Coffee. Is. Life.”
Day 7: “This is actually easier than being heavily pregnant with a toddler... at least I can move!”