When Harry met Sally all those years ago, one fake orgasm in a New York deli was all it took to start the world talking about sex.
Then came Carrie Bradshaw and not only were we talking about sex, it was the only thing filling every conversation. I remember watching that last episode of Sex and the City; it was a girl’s night in with too many cosmopolitans and plenty of cheeky conversation.
Fast forward to today and in between breastfeeding and washing the dinner dishes, the conversation about sex seems to have been lost somewhere.
If anything the last thing some of us are talking about is sex. The carefree days of the nineties and naughties: sex, cosmopolitans and freedom have become the routine days of when will you be home tonight? What’s for dinner? Can you pick up the kids from school?
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Once you add kids, maybe a mortgage and a few pets to a relationship the dynamics change. The spark that started the relationship in the first place seems to be a hastily lit scented candle from Aldi, which really pales in comparison. It is time to shift the conversation. Here is the one question we need to ask in our relationships, not only to bring the spark back, but to make our relationships in the bedroom more important than the school run.
How was it for you? Intimacy starts with conversation. When was the last time you sat down and just talked with your partner? Not about the kids, not about work, not about money and certainly not about who is on roster to clean the bathroom that weekend. Busy schedules, long work hours and we seem to forget that the simple things work best. Asking your partner about their day and then actually listening and being attentive to the answer may be all you need to soften the rough edges.
How was it for you? Kindness and love is the heart of any relationship. Yet when our time and energy is being divided in so many different directions we forget that the one person we care about the most deserves some of that love and kindness too. Making them a coffee and bringing it to bed in the morning, a simple text message in the middle of the day for no reason other than to say “I love you,” these are the little things that all add up to rekindling that spark.