When my friend’s bridal shower invitation showed up in the post, I let out an audible groan.
Not because I am not very excited to celebrate the fact she has found the love of her life and is marrying a very decent man, but because when I opened the invitation, I saw it explicitly expressed that gifts were very much welcome.
Another. Bloody. Gift.
For this particular couple, I have contributed an engagement present, am paying for an overnight hens stay plus a small gift for that, a wedding gift and now a bridal shower gift too?
Since when did weddings become a chance for people to absolutely milk their friends and family for money and gifts?
Traditionally, giving a gift to a newly engaged couple would go towards their future home, which I am happy to do, but where’s the line? How many gifts is too many for one couple’s celebration?
I don’t want to be a wedding Grinch, but I’m a little… annoyed.
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I’ve thought about it a lot, and right now I think I am going to pass on buying a bridal shower present. I’m apprehensive about this – as a naturally very anxious person, I’m terrified at the thought of conflict – but I just can’t see why so many gifts are necessary.
I’ve thought about how her feelings may be hurt (a big concern), how I may be embarrassed if she decides to open the presents in front of everyone – or is that just baby showers? – and how I may look cheap, but I just don’t agree with the lavish bestowing of gifts on people.
Two gifts, one for the engagement and one for the wedding, is enough (and maybe already one too many), at least in my opinion.
Finding a partner and getting married should not be about receiving gifts, holidays and a ridiculous amount of toasters – it is about committing to another person and celebrating the love you both share. I know, I know, corny as.