Our favourite blog from last week's iBlog Friday has been chosen! Nicola Moriarty is the winner with her post at nicolamoriarty.com.au. Congrats Nicola! The Jazz Pack in the mail.
Sometimes a random conversation ends up being exactly what you need at the time. Read about how Nicola's chance encounter at a coffee shop leads to a serious conversation about post natal depression.
A coffee with a stranger
Do you chat to strangers in coffee shops? At the bus stop? On the train?
And if you do, has your conversation ever gone past polite chit-chat, pleasantries about the weather and the like?
I only ask because I met a woman in GJ’s the other day, and somehow, our conversation went from “your son has the most gorgeous brown eyes!” (she had an adorable 16 month old, who was climbing on the bench seat next to me and attempting to stand on his head) to “How do you know if you have post natal depression?”
So how did we get there?
We chatted for a while about the weather – of course. She talked about how she had older children, and how the little boy with her was her fifth. I joked about how I could barely cope with two. So we talked about kids for a while. Eventually she asked me what I did for a living. When I told her I was a writer, she asked a few questions about my books, and then she asked, “Do you ever write about personal experiences?” I told her that yes, as my second novel dealt with PND.
Suddenly she became very serious. She looked me right in the eyes and she asked, “How do you know if you have post natal depression?”
I paused, I tried to word my answer carefully. I had the sense that she was suffering. But that she didn’t know if it was just normal, if it was just a part of motherhood – or if it was something more.
I told her about my experiences. About hitting a low point, about my husband picking up on the signs and suggesting that I needed to talk to someone. About visiting first the clinic nurse, who had me do the Edinburgh test for depression, about seeing my GP, then a psychologist and being put on antidepressants.