People will tell you that everything changes in a marriage after you have a baby and, you know what? They’re right.

But while those changes are often portrayed as negative, there are plenty of ways having a child will strengthen your relationship.Yes, that new little person in your lives alters how you see each other (and the world) in copious and profound ways. And yet, there’s a constant: your husband is always going to be that same man — your best friend and confidante — you fell in love with before a certain egg was fertilized, and that’s a good thing. Here’s what happens to many couples when baby’s on board.

1) baby lying with mum and dad on bed and looking up

2) couple having sex with feet poking out of covers

3) mother breastfeeding child while husband watches on

4) woman stares angrily at camera while man looks away

5) Dad holds baby while mum looks on lovingly

6) man stretches in bed

7) mother holds child and smiles at it

8) baby drinks out of a bottle while mum holds it

9) woman covers husbands eyes and tries to surprise him

10) woman have dinner and chat and laugh together

Stop talking about the kids.

12) baby crawls while parents look on