Fake it til you make it.
Know your worth.
Carry yourself with the confidence of a mediocre white man.
Yes, ladies, CONFIDENCE is the inspirational female call-to-action of our time. Stop apologising. Start self-promoting. Shoulders back, spin out front. Let’s get shit done. Let’s DO THIS.
Are you feeling fired up? Like you could take on the world? Like there’s nothing you can’t do?
Great. Now read this, it’s a quote from the accomplished actress, producer and mogul-in-the-making Reese Witherspoon, in a paragraph from last weekend’s The Weekend Australian Magazine:
“I was never going to be an actor who lives in their car because their dream was so big. [If acting didn’t work] I would have gone from Stanford to medical school and become a surgeon. Right now, I’d probably be the premier surgeon and paediatric cardiologist at Vanderbilt University,” she says, pausing. “What? I’m just being honest. I’m ambitious, and I’m over hiding that.”
Oh. Really? A "premier surgeon and paediatric cardiologist"?
Ooh, someone's got tickets on themselves.
That's just up yourself, right? Big-headed? Borderline delusional?
Is that what confidence looks like? Then no, we don't want that, thanks very much. Show some humility, woman.
And that, right there, is the rub. Like so very many things in a woman's world, when we say we want the confidence to pursue our dreams, what we mean is we want the Goldilocks version of confidence.
Listen: We argue about Reese Witherspoon's comments on this week's episode of Mamamia Out Loud. Post continues below.
Not too little, not too much, just the right amount: Be thin but not too thin, be sexy but not too sexy, be a great mum but don't be obsessed with your kids, be healthy but not boring... the list goes on.
As Reese Witherspoon rightly points out, a woman admitting she is ambitious makes our culture uncomfortable. And a woman admitting she's actually really bloody good at what she does, that maybe she'd be good at whatever she did, makes people pretty much ropeable.