I recently returned from a cruise to the Bahamas. I’d even go far enough to call it a “booze cruise,” as it featured an open bar.
On the trip, I grew close to a group of girls from NYC. We shared drinks and laughs, and they spilled the tea on their ship sexcapades. With the permission of the person I’m writing about, I want to share a story of lies, betrayal, and infidelity all to uncover the truth behind the question:
Is it cheating if you have sex while travelling abroad?
My new friend — we'll call her Mary — met a good looking guy on the ship. We'll call him Jerry. We were all on the top deck when two of Jerry's friends came over to introduce themselves to the four of us. Although there was an obvious attraction between Mary and Jerry, he decided not to get out of the pool to talk with her. Instead, he insisted that she come over to him in the pool.
That was the first sign that something was off.
Mary is a gorgeous, modelesque black woman with a curly fro that rivals Solange Knowles'. So the fact that he wanted her to come to him was unusual.
My first thought? He's a pretty boy and doesn't want to do any of the work. But soon after, I thought that he was possibly in a relationship and told himself that he wouldn't pursue any women. If they approached him — well, that would be a different story.
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Mary made her way poolside, and they started chatting. When she and I walked to the bar to get a drink number 3476, I asked why she was even giving him the time of day if he refused to meet her halfway? I also shared my theory about him being unavailable. She shrugged it off, saying she thought of the situation as a challenge.
Eventually, we all found our way into the hot tub. I learned that Jerry was from Atlanta, near where I live. He seemed like a decent guy, but I could tell he wasn't being completely honest. Mary's friend and I decided to ask Jerry a few questions. Simple questions like, "Are you married? Are you single?"