"Dear Hudson and Elliot, I want you to understand where you came from."

Dear Hudson and Elliot,

You exist in this world because more than anything else in the world, I wanted you. I wanted to be your mum. I wanted to love you and raise you and for us to be a family.

Families come in all different types. There are big families with mums, dads, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, grandparents. There are families where children have two mums or two dads, some have just a dad, or like our family, they have just a mum. It’s ok to be different, in fact, every family is different. They have different jokes, different toys, different ideas, different routines.

Our family is special. I want to tell you more so you understand where you came from and how wonderful it is to have you in the world. So I’m going to tell you a story.

You see, I grew up in a family with a mum, dad and sister. And they loved me so much, and supported my every dream, my ideas and my goals. They taught me about unconditional love. They showed me that being a family is something truly special. Together we made memories, went on holidays, ate at yummy restaurants, and enjoyed time spent together.

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I always knew I wanted to be a mum. Lots of people meet someone special, get married and have children. This doesn’t happen for everyone though.

You see, mummy has something called Lupus. And for many years I talked to doctors about you, or the idea of you. I wanted to know that no matter what, I would have a chance to be a mummy. Sometimes things can get in the way of that – things like being sick or different types of medicine. So, I decided to see if she could find someone to help her to become a mummy. Your mummy!

Mummy spoke to your Mimi, Grandad and Aunty Lis and they were excited. They wanted to have you in their lives. They promised to help to raise you. So I went to a special doctor and explained that I wanted to be your mummy.

To do that we also needed a donor. Your donor is a nice man who decided to help us. He wrote lots of information like how his favourite food is lasagna and how he really likes to play sport. He also has a brother. When you turn 18 you can meet him and get to know him, if you want to. In the meantime, I have a baby photo of your donor and lots of writing to show you! We are even going to write him a thank you letter and send it with pictures of you in it!

Elliot and Hudson, sometimes you might feel sad and have questions, and sometimes you might even wish you had a daddy, and that’s ok! You should always talk to me about these feelings. We have lots of family and friends who are here for you as well. It’s ok to feel sad, and our family is really great, so we will help each other to get through the moments we feel sad! You can always have a cuddle, and we can read about your donor. We can write down our feelings and we can do something fun to take your mind off your worries. We will deal with these moments together, if and when they happen.

The most important thing I want you to know is how much I wanted you. You are the BEST gift I have ever been given and I love you to the moon and back. You remember that EVERY family is different, and special, and every family does things differently. You should always be kind and open minded. You should listen to everyone’s stories and be supportive, just as I hope others will support our story and our life.

My darling boys. We are a family. I will ALWAYS love you, unconditionally. We are going to have the best time together!

Love your mummy xxx

This post was originally published on Twin Mama J and has been republished here with full permission. 

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