This year, I hit that inevitable life stage where everyone in my life who wants to get married, is suddenly getting married.
And that’s wonderful. Truly, it is.
I’ve never wanted to get married myself for a multitude of reasons: I can think of 1000 better ways to spend $30,000, I absolutely hate organising… well, anything, let alone a day where I’m supposed to have an opinion on table settings and what shade of white my dress is, plus in my particular circumstance, marriage makes no legal difference to the status of my relationship, so what’s the point?
How much should a wedding dress cost? Not much, in my opinion, but what do I know? Post continues below video.
But I know other people want to get married and that’s cool.
So, when one of my close friends got engaged early this year, I was thrilled for her.
Not long after she asked me to be a bridesmaid and I was flattered.
But in the time since, I’ve come to realise that while I’m really honoured to be part of someone’s ‘big day’, the bridesmaid life is just not for me.
It’s time consuming, expensive and exhausting, and at least in my case, pretty thankless.
I didn’t want to purchase a dress and shoes I will never again wear. I didn’t want to spend hours of my life getting that dress altered.
I didn’t want to use up annual leave to spend days before the wedding getting my nails painted a specific colour and travelling through the country to get to the wedding location.
I did want to organise a hens do, because fun, until I realised in 2019, hens dos are weekend long affairs with dress codes.
But hey, we all need to do things we don’t want to do for people we care about. I get that, and I was happy to suck it up.