It was 2014 and from the outside looking in I had the perfect life. A high flying corporate executive at a global giant, a beautiful home with a white picket fence, a husband and a small child, a couple of European cars in the driveway and international travel. I wanted for nothing but I longed for a different life.
A life that was more humanly connected, more invested in positively impacting the lives of others, more present and more creative. So, I did something a little crazy. I turned my whole life upside in pursuit of happiness.
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Within a seven-month period, I left a 16-year career at the top of my game, relocated my family from Perth back to Melbourne, left an 18-year relationship and started my own purpose driven business. I gave myself the title of Happiness Hacker and set myself a bold mission to teach 10 million humans how to intentionally adapt in order to future proof happiness by 2025.
When I couldn’t find anyone to help me hack my own happiness or with a way to support me in navigating the path I went out and created it. I used myself as a guinea pig and dived into what I now term imperfect experimentation.
I’m now six years into my hacking happiness journey and there’s no end in site but there’s so much that I’ve learnt about myself and where happiness is found in the process.
1. Happiness is found at the intersection of longing and avoidance.
Look closely at what you are longing for and why you have avoided taking action. More often than not we hold ourselves back out of fear, fear of the unknown, fear of loss even though we know in our hearts that long term this change would make us so much happier.
I know that the greatest opportunity sits on the other side of this intersection so I hold up the mirror and challenge myself constantly to lean into the avoidance and see where it might take me.
2. You are capable of so much more than you realise.
If someone had told me six years ago that I would be able to live my life in alignment having created a job as a renowned Happiness Hacker enabling me to travel the world sharing my experience, writing books and on the cusp of my own TV show I would have said they were nuts.
It was fear that led me here and I’ve learnt the more I use my fear as a green light to lean into the possibility the more the universe provides in unexpected ways. The practice of micro bravery has become my greatest asset. Pushing myself to do one small thing daily that scares me has built the courage and confidence to lean into bigger fears over time unlocking potential I just couldn’t see.