Nude selfies are in the news. Today, 22 school kids on the Gold Coast have been suspended for sharing inappropriate images of teenage school girls.
Last week, a website with more than 2,000 graphic images of female high school students was shut down. It was a forum where high school boys and men were uploading, sharing and “rating” images of girls without their consent.
One school in Victoria was reported to have called all girls from Year 7 to Year 10 into a meeting to discuss the online abuse. In the same meeting they urged girls to refrain from sending sexy selfies, and reminded them to wear their skirt below their knee.
The reaction to this news has been resoundingly clear:
Girls, stop sending nude or sexualised pictures to young men. Who knows where they might end up.
And you know what? That is exactly what someone from an older generation would say. Someone who doesn’t understand how modern-day relationships work.
Those offering their wisdom on teen relationships may question why anyone would want to send images of their breasts or vagina or full naked body. Because, out of context, the behaviour seems bizarre. Foreign. Dangerous. The same way sex before marriage once seemed strange and risky.
The sexy selfie is just another generation of sexual exploration. (Image: iStock)
But when you've grown up with an iPhone in your hand, sending a sexy selfie only seems like second nature.
Every other aspect of young adult lives are online. Our work, our education, our friendships, our what-time-will-you-be-home-for-dinner-family-communication. There is no aspect of our lives that is not, somehow, connected through social media or the internet.
So why not our sexuality?
Sending nude selfies is the modern-day equivalent of trying to French kiss for the first time. Or fondling a first boyfriend under the duvet trying to be quiet while your parents are downstairs.