According to “Myths and Realities of Living Together Without Marriage“, the “realities” of living together before marriage are as follows: The divorce rate of women who cohabit before marriage is more than 80%.
Most men who cohabit with women are only doing it for “convenience”. Within a cohabiting relationship, a woman is more likely to pay her fair share of household expenses.
The “myths”, of course, are those that say you won’t be struck down by hellfire as you sleep in your unsanctimonious bed of sin. (FYI: you will).
According to the “evidence”, tying the knot before you buy any fancy knives together is the clear path forward.
These excellent arguments aside, however, I have one remaining question:
How do people choose to spend their lives together without first knowing what spending their lives together actually looks like? If we’re encouraged to take marriage seriously (and, according to “Myths and Realities of Living Together Without Marriage“, not doing so has “disastrous ramifications for the individuals involved”), shouldn’t we be encouraged to try before we buy?
My decision to move in with my boyfriend wasn’t an alternative to marriage. Getting married, as it happens, isn’t on the agenda yet. (MAROLTWM would tell me that every day we live in sin, our chances of holy matrimony decline, but I’m withholding judgment on that one until at least 2020).