Let’s face it, chances are you’re not going to like everyone you work with; or have to socialise with for that matter. Most of us are likely to find ourselves forced to spend time with people we would rather not. The simple truth is we can either suffer through each interaction, or find ways to get along.
To ‘get along’ with someone broadly means to be on friendly terms with them. When it comes to colleagues, it largely means the ability to work in a spirit of cooperation and get the job done to the best of your collective ability. Getting along with a relative or a ‘friend of a friend’ you don’t particularly like, on the other hands means finding ways to enjoy their company, or at the very least avoid unnecessary stress and angst every time you get together.
Choose your attitude
The key to getting along with anyone lies in your ability to choose your attitude. Of course, their attitude matters also, but the reality is you can’t control other people. Focus on what you can control; that is your own thoughts, emotions and behaviour.
So many of us waste energy thinking and talking about people we don’t like. How often do you replay annoying events or conversations in your mind? Do you ‘roleplay’ scenarios in your mind about the conversations you intend to have with some people? Do you imagine yourself winning an argument with your nemesis? Do you allow your emotions to build as you invest in the drama unfolding in your mind?
We all have the power to choose the thoughts and emotions we invest in. The ability for anyone to offend us or drain our spirit entirely depends on our response. We choose how the words and actions of other people make us feel. Much like the teasing big brother or sister, they only win if you allow them to upset you.