In fact, if
you’re single, it may well put a dampener on your Friday and Saturday
nights for a long time to come.
There’s a growing underground movement among single women and it’s
called The-Six-Month Rule. Its main principle is breath-takingly
simple: when you meet a new man, don’t sleep with him for six months.
Unlike its retro 90s cousin The Rules, where women were advised to
channel their inner prissy virgin, Six-Month girls are not prudes. Or
manipulators. Nor are they busting to be brides.
The Six Month Rule is not aimed at hooking, trapping or luring a man
for marriage, sport or any other purpose. Neither is it some religious
movement to discourage pre-marital sex. Hell no.
According to those who espouse its virtues, The Six Month Rule is
simply a way to avoid dud relationships and protect yourself from
baggage and sexual regret. An added bonus is that it minimises the
number of jerks walking around who have seen you naked.
Six-Month-Girl, Sandra, is sexy, confident and at 34, no stranger to premature copulation. “I have no hang-ups about sex and I’ve slept with more than a few new guys early on. I thought it was empowering. My body. My decision. It’s not like I was hanging out for a ring or even a relationship necessarily. But in my twenties, I found myself in a continuous series of short flings with idiots. It took me years to realise that sleeping with a virtual stranger didn’t make me feel empowered, it made me feel exposed. Not to mention the way it hampered my ability to judge the guy’s character afterwards.”
“The day after I’ve slept with a new guy I feel great,” echoes Carla, another Six Month convert. “But even when we’d both agreed it was ‘just sex’, a few days later I start feeling like crap. Vulnerable, empty and wishing I could delete the whole thing.”
Do you have an ex (or five) that you’d cross the street to avoid? Even if it meant walking into on-coming traffic? Now consider how soon into that relationship you did the horizontal folkdance. First night? Second date?