Gatsbying is the cringeworthy dating trend you've been seeing everywhere.


There are so many dating trends it is becoming logistically impossible to keep up.

There’s ghosting, benching, breadcrumbing, stashing, submarining, cusioning, cricketing, and even goddamn shaveducking – and I can define precisely none of them.

I believe they all have to do with not being very nice to the person you’re going out with, which seems rude. But now, there’s a brand new dating trend, and I’m interested for the sole reason that it involves my very favourite actor, Leonardo DiCaprio.

What u doing boi?

In a recent piece for TOMBOY Beauty, Australian model Matilda Dods described her penchant for 'Gatsbying,' which she defined as follows:

To post a video, picture or selfie to public social media purely for a love interest to see it.

"Why, instead of just sending a text to the boy that I like, am I throwing the equivalent of a champagne soaked, chandelier swinging, Charleston dancing party on my Instagram story?" the 20-year-old wrote.

"All for that ceaseless green light across the water that is the attention of a boy who, let's be real, probably isn't good enough for me anyway."

You see, in The Great Gatsby - the 1925 American novel by F. Scott Fitzgerald, and more recently, the 2013 film by Baz Luhrmann - Jay Gatsby (Leonardo DiCaprio), a mysterious businessman, throws lavish parties at his mansion to try to capture the attention of the woman he's always loved, Daisy Buchanan (Carey Mulligan).

And according to Dods, she essentially does the same thing on a night out.

Textbook hangover ????

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Describing one Saturday night in particular, Dods wrote, "Already several pinot noirs deep, and feeling particularly cute in a low cut, silk slip top, I passed my phone across the table to [my friend] Chloe and requested, 'Take a cute boomerang of me, I want _____ to see how damn good I look tonight.'"

"About an hour later, I checked my phone to see if ______ had in fact seen the boomerang, and been struck with an uncontrollable urge to text me, and ask if he could see me later."

Unfortunately for Dods, he had not, but she's had other, far more successful attempts.

"Do not distrust the effectiveness of a good Gatsby," she wrote.

For Dods, a 'good Gatsby' essentially baits someone into paying attention to you. For example, when she fell and bruised her legs on a bus, she knew posting a photo of herself would probably elicit a response from a guy she'd shared a joke with about being clumsy.

Excessive Gatsbying, however, stops you from enjoying the present - because you're so focused on making sure a particular person (or people) know what you're up to.

It can also be very, very obvious. We've all scrolled through Instagram to see a post that's been shared with the sole purpose of getting one person's attention. Whether it's a very pointed quote in a caption, or a flirty Instagram story, or a joke no one else gets, many of us can spot a Gatsby a mile away.

There's no shame in Gatsbying, of course. But now we have a name for just another one of the dating trends we've been seeing everywhere.

You can read Matilda Dods full story 'The Great Gatsby' here.