No one can tell me what's wrong with my daughter.

Where do parents turn when doctors don’t know either?

The incredible frustration of knowing something is wrong with your child is one that many parents have shared. I know it has happened to parents who end up discovering their child has a serious illness, and I know this isn’t what is happening to my daughter and I.

But I’m still feeling incredibly helpless and desperate for answers.

For the past two months my daughter has had a skin condition that causes her discomfort and distress. So far we’ve been told it could be:


Insect bites;

An allergic reaction;


A virus.

We’ve taken her to hospital once and to the doctors several time. Half of the doctors we have seen have hazarded a guess, the others simply say they don’t know what the cause is.

We’ve treated her for every one of the possible conditions it could be and it still persists.

I find myself wanting to scream to the universe, “What is wrong with my daughter?!?” I just want her to stop suffering. The itchiness is sometimes unbearable and she has unsightly spots on her face and arms.

Yes, we ruled out chicken pox and measles as well.

I just want to know what the problem is, then I want to fix it for her.

It seems to be just one of those things that will "run it's course". Don't you just hate that expression. We may find the cause, we may not. It's uncomfortable, but not life-threatening. It's just that navigating this goes against my most important parenting instinct which is...if my child has a problem, I want to fix it.

I can't fix this. I can only manage it, with limited assistance from equally helpless doctors who trust me, aren't any happier than I am at not being able to confirm what this skin condition is.

This happened to me once before, before my son was diagnosed with his food allergies and it was equally frustrating. That took a year to diagnose.

It's all just part of the madness of parenting really. Most of us have been through something like this and apart from wringing our hands, consulting Dr. Google and wildly speculating with family and friends, there's not much else we can do.

Have you been through something similar with your children? Did you ever find out what is wrong?

Like this? Then try:

Stop telling me your child hasn't seen a doctor, like it's a good thing.

Is it normal that my husband will only let me see a female doctor?