Finally, there’s a reason to burn those bridges.
It keeps you out of emotional heart ache. It prevents future partners from not understanding why you would want to have a coffee with your ex. And, best of all for anyone who has sometimes doubted themselves, it likely means you are NOT a psychopath.
A new study has explored the link between dark personality types and the ability to maintain friendships with ex-partners.
Finally, there’s proof of the creepiness that comes with messages from lovers past and former partners who are all smiley smiley and really want to chat to you for ages at that birthday party you’ve both ended up going to. There’s a little bit of science, not just bad vibes, behind the reason you cringe every time someone tells you how tight they are with their ex’s.
We couldn’t make the relationship work but they’re still very much a part of my life.
We’re just ‘consciously uncoupling’ but there is really no bad blood.
Look, I love the fact that we don’t hold any grudges. We just grew apart, that’s why we can still be such good friends.
We’ve been through so much together. Why would we want to say goodbye to that?
Ummm. Because it’s really weird sometimes.
THIS IS REAL LIFE. You are not ‘uncoupling’, and you are not friends. You are breaking up and it’s hurtful, it’s ugly and there is NO reason why it has to be dressed up with a fairtytale ending.
Unless you’re a narcissist.
The research, which comes out of Oakland University in Michigan, analysed 860 participants to discover their motivations for involvement with their ex’s. They also looked to dark personality traits, such as narcissism, duplicity, psychopathy, to see if there was a correlation between the two concepts.
It built upon previous research, which has shown people who possess these dark personality traits are more likely to pick friends strategically… Apparently, a friendship with your ex-partner isn’t weird if it’s useful (and you’re a narcissist).