Image: “Oh, what a… surprise!” (via The Notebook).
Although I’ve never done it myself, I’ve always assumed the act of proposing would be an authentic, heartfelt gesture borne out of a genuine desire — with no external pressures — to spend your life with the person you love.
Well, I now understand the depth of my naivety, and it’s all thanks to my best friend Ellie*.
Ellie and her boyfriend Tom* have been together since our uni days. There’s always been a bit of a Type A-Type B dynamic going on — Ellie is incredibly organised and likes to micro-manage every aspect of her life (and the lives of everyone around her), while Tom is a bit more… relaxed. Put it this way, you couldn’t really describe him as ‘proactive’.
Regardless, they really love each other and until about a year ago they seemed to be chugging along contentedly… and then Ellie decided she would rather like to be married. And soon.
This is mainly because we’ve hit the age where our paired-up friends are tying the knot with more ferocity than a squad of Girl Scouts. The invitations have been arriving thick and fast, and every second day another “I/she said yes!” ring shot appears on social media.
Ellie desperately wants to join their ranks. While her agitation is obvious to me, it seems Tom isn’t picking up on her ‘I want to be your wife’ vibes. She hasn’t gone so far as to say those exact words to his face, but I know she’s dropped the topic of getting married into conversation and only received an infuriatingly vague response.
It’s also worth mentioning that Tom does not respond well to being told what to do. So where do I come into all this? Well, Ellie’s now enlisted me to pull an Inception and plant the seed of wedded bliss in Tom’s sub-conscious — without him realising it, of course. And I’ve agreed to go along with it because I know how much she wants this. (Post continues after gallery.)