Image: Instagram (@fionafalkiner).
Last year was a big one for Fiona Falkiner, she became the host of TBL: Families and inspired many with her down-to-earth body image advice and approach to looking and feeling healthy. This year, she’s decided she’s open to finding a partner. We spoke to the eHarmony Dating ambassador about love, weight loss and happiness.
What was it about this year that made you want to focus on relationships?
“The last few years I’ve spent all my time and energy into focusing on my health, fitness and career and over Christmas I went home to my family and it was all ‘Ooh, Auntie Fi is still single’ and my nieces and nephews asking why I wasn’t married. I’m back in Australia now and I’m really happy in every other area of my life and it’s like right, I’m ready to give it a go.”
What’s the best thing about online dating that you’ve been surprised by?
“There used to be such a stigma about online dating, and people would say ‘We’ll tell everyone we met in a bar’ but I think everyone that I know who is single has either tried or is on a dating app. It’s not that different to going to meet someone in a bar but this way you’re actually in the safety of your home and with eHarmony especially you’re matched with someone you’ve got similar values to, so you’ve got a chance to have a better connection with them and you’re actually going to have things in common.
“On first dates I always used to assess what the values of my dates were and try and pose the question, ‘Where do you see yourself in five years?’ trying to establish what they want, as for me I want to have kids and get married at some point in my life. Everyone was so shocked, saying it was too soon to ask someone that!
“But in my mind I don’t want to waste my time because for me that’s sort of a deal-breaker. If they’re not on the same page and they’re living that’s on their agenda for the next few years then there’s no point. I don’t want to just date someone for a year and they don’t want anything else from it.”
What was the biggest thing you learnt about weight loss after your own time on The Biggest Loser?
“That there are no quick fixes. If you want to make healthy changes, it takes time and it takes dedication. It’s a process to try and get used to making the changes and embracing the healthier lifestyle and you’ve got to try and implement it into your life so it becomes part of your daily routine and the way you live life.” (Post continues after gallery.)
After being on TBL were you happier?
“I used to be one of those people who equated losing weight with being happy and it’s not true. Growing up as a teenager I wholeheartedly thought that all my problems and insecurities and negative feeling I had about my life were because of my weight. I had this idea that if I got skinny my life would be perfect, all that would fall away and I would live this incredible life which is not true. When I came out of the TBL house the skinniest I had ever been in my entire life, all those feelings were still there.