I was listening intently to Kamal Sarma of Rezilium talk about coming home from work one day, so exhausted he could barely muster the strength to talk through his day with his wife. A work call came through shortly after he arrived home and he answered the phone full of enthusiasm and willingness to talk.
The pattern here? Kamal gave the best version of himself to someone who probably wouldn’t even be at his funeral. And it spurred him on to change his life. Yes, it’s morbid to think about the whole death and funeral thing, but it makes sense in this context.
The many times I’ve come home after a big day of giving all my best energy to my work, while my supportive, brilliant husband was served the exhausted, less-than-sparkly version of myself when I arrived home.
It doesn’t seem fair, does it? So why do so many of us do it anyway?
“We possibly feel that our loved ones are ‘sure things’ - we already have their love and approval but we feel the need to continue to seek external approval and love from those who we’re less sure of,” explains Clinical and Coaching Psychologist and Founder of The Positivity Institute, Dr Suzy Green.
“Taking our loved ones for granted can make them feel unloved or under appreciated... Don’t wait until they’re gone to realise how important they are and what you ‘should’ have done when they were here with you.”