Sex toys. Boy, do we love 'em.
Whether you're looking for a quick way to get off, an intense encounter with a partner or a romantic night to yourself, it's almost always guaranteed that there's a handy and reliable friend sitting in your bedside drawer.
Research shows us that now more than ever, women are leaning into the wonderful, wild world of sex toys. The days filled with anxiety while shopping for our very own vibrator or dildo in store are long gone – and we are so thankful for that.
However, if you're curious to know what sex toys women are using these days, look no further. Mamamia reached out to our community to know what toys are getting them off and exactly how they use them.
Below, 17 women share their absolute favourite sex toy and let us know just how it makes them reach the big O.
Ads, aged 36.
What is your sex toy of choice? Red Hot Flickering Tongue from Lovehoney.
What makes it so good? I like to use it in bed by myself. It's great because it stimulates the clitoris well. It is very intense.
How do you use it? I use it in bed during solo play. It is a perfectly intense vibrator with a really nice, orgasmic rhythm. It's a go-to because it is stimulating without being too vigorous. It's a must-have, people!
Summer, aged 25.
What is your sex toy of choice? The Soul Sucker – it is the perfect two-in-one. It is a vibrator with a remote-controlled clitoral sucker – oh and it has nine different vibration patterns. You heard me, NINE!!!!
What makes it so good? I love the vibration patterns, it really gives a bit of variety depending on how you are feeling. It feels absolutely incredible; I have had an orgasm 99 per cent of a time using this vibrator. Sometimes I even have two! My advice though is to put a towel down.
How do you use it? I think the real question is where don't I use it – it is completely waterproof so when I am needing a change of scenery from my bedroom, it will make a guest appearance during my shower time (which makes the cleanup so much easier – clean your sex toys people!). But my favourite ritual is listening to audio porn (a new favourite of mine), which will usually give you some really filthy and depraved details on exactly how you are expected to use my little friend.
I like to use it by starting on my back and starting on setting one to gently work my way up, thankfully the Soul Sucker is almost silent – you would really have to focus to hear the deep vibration. When I feel like I am getting just that bit closer to an orgasm, I up it to setting two, then I am on all fours. Finally, I get it to an intense and almost aggressive pace, which is setting three. The third setting has an absolute mind numbingly intensity. Once I get to the third setting, it is guaranteed that I am getting an orgasm. In short, it is a MUST HAVE.
Jenna, aged 28.
What is your sex toy of choice? The Abbie Chatfield vibrator by Vush. It's bright orange, and it looks like a boomerang with a bulbous end. But it also has a pretty flower embossed detail, which weirdly adds to the vibrations.
What makes it so good? This vibe is designed to target your g-spot, and BOY DOES IT! The vibrations concentrate at the head and when you have it fully inside you, you can feel the vibrations all around – particularly around the back network of your clit. It's genius, and it feels so deeply intense.
How do you use it? I usually put on some porn to focus my brain and stop thoughts about work or life admin from creeping in. I get onto my bed and lay on my back first, propped up by some big pillows behind me. Usually I begin with using the fat head of the vibrator on my vulva, rolling it over my vulva and teasing my clit with it – but never pressing fully on it. Then I start to use the vibrator internally. I then roll onto my front, with pillows stuffed under my tummy, to use the vibrator in a 'pressure position' so that I can have external and internal vibrations and push my body down onto the shaft of the sex toy. Don't be afraid of the knobbly top. It's so worth getting over the fear and finding your g-spot!
Isla, aged 23.
What is your sex toy of choice? A trusty bullet vibrator from Honey Birdette.
What makes it so good? It’s simple, compact, travel friendly and was incredibly cheap. It's also really trusty and does the job for someone who likes clitoral stimulation. I’m not intimidated by it at all. It’s a winner! For those who aren’t sure about sex toys or want something simple that is travel friendly – buy this bullet. You won’t regret it.
How do you use it? The bullet is my saving grace. Some may call it boring – I call it a classic. I use it mostly in bed, lying down while watching a shitty sex scene on Netflix, and let my mind do the rest. It can be used internally, and I sometimes do it that way but mostly, I focus it on my clit. And it’s delightful. And it's not very noisy, which is a bonus.
Ana, aged 35.
What is your sex toy of choice? I use the Womanizer.
What makes it so good? It's so powerful and it is so quick. Literally so many women I know use it and I read many reviews (including the ones on Mamamia) that just confirmed to me how trustworthy it is. It's basically the number one sex toy in my eyes.
How do you use it? Sometimes with my husband. Sometimes on my own in bed. Show your partner how to use it because it can be fun to use together!
What is your sex toy of choice? VUSH empress 2: clitoral suction and vibration device.
What makes it so good? It has a long-charge life, and it is waterproof! It may take a minute to figure out what position you like with it, but keep a clear mind, and focus on pleasure – not just the outcome!
How do you use it? I use it in the shower or in bed. I love that it is not too loud (which is great if you have housemates).
What is your sex toy of choice? Gigi 2 by LELO. It is so pretty and has a small flat-tipped vibe.
What makes it so good? Well, it's easy to use and has a lot of different intensities and vibration patterns. It makes it easier to edge myself. It's also good for a non-threatening, discreet and satisfying toy that doesn't need an instruction manual to figure out.
How do you use it? I use it on my own to masturbate with or when I am on top of my partner. It's great.
What is your sex toy of choice? A wand vibrator from LELO.
What makes it so good? It has different settings to build up intensity for orgasm. It has a smooth silicone cover that is so soft on my skin. Buy it! It has given me the best orgasm I've ever had and because of the different settings, I can return it to low and go again (and again).
How do you use it? Laying down in bed on my own or in multiple positions with my husband.
What is your sex toy of choice? Womanizer Pro (it's an incredible suction toy).
What makes it so good? The suction is powerful yet not quite as full-on as straight up vibration. It has so many different intensity levels and the materials are great. Also quite quiet. I recommend it! It’s pricey but so worth it. It gave me my first ever orgasm after trying multiple other toys.
How do you use it? I use it in bed while laying on my back or on my stomach. I also have used it in the bath a few times.
What is your sex toy of choice? LELO Soraya Wave rabbit massager.
What makes it so good? I orgasm every time, without fail! It’s all about the clitoris for me and this toy goes hard and fast, it’s incredible! It’s rechargeable and lasts for ages before needing to be charged (that is important to me)!
How do you use it? I use it on my own or with my partner. It’s really for the clitoris stimulation.
What is your sex toy of choice? I love the Womanizer. It looks like a small handheld massager with a round open ‘head’.
What makes it so good? It gets me to orgasm very quickly, and then multiple orgasms follow. It makes my whole body tremble and weak in my legs. It has been the first and only thing that has led me to ‘ejaculate’. Buy it. It is the absolute best toy ever. I’ve even bought my friends their very own.
How do you use it? So far I’ve only used it with my partner, either in bed on my back, or on top of my partner with penis penetration.
What is your sex toy of choice? I use the Rabbit vibrator from Catch (it's good, I promise).
What makes it so good? It has so much flexibility and a lot of durability. It is so great at giving me a solid orgasm.
How do you use it? You warm it up with warm water and use it with non-scented body cream for a lubricant. I like to use it in bed or with a pillow.
What is your sex toy of choice? This year I tried out the new Satisfyer Curvy sex toys, which is a clit sucker and vibrator. They are small and fit in your hand and sort of has a U-shape.
What makes it so good? When I have the house to myself and I find the best comfort orgasm is in bed in a dark room so it feels more exclusive. It gives the most amazing, mind-blowing orgasms that intensifies and gets me off within less than two minutes. It usually takes me a very long time during intercourse to achieve this so when I tried this new “trending” product, I had to tell all of my friends to try it.
How do you use it? Definitely try the new clit stimulating ones. I have one that goes internally that has 10 lots of functions and vibrations and you can adjust the vibrations of the clit sucker part separately too. It’s small, so easy to store and hide, and it's waterproof! The best part: its charge lasts for hours! No more changing batteries or being disappointed when it runs out of puff mid-session.
What is your sex toy of choice? Satisfyer Pro 2. It's a little handheld suction device.
What makes it so good? It guarantees hitting the exact right spot every single time, and for prolonged periods of time. I've never had an orgasm like it. The experience is enhanced when using some form of lubrication.
How do you use it? You can use it any place you like, it's designed to suck your clit. I use it while lying on my back and either by myself or with a partner.
What is your sex toy of choice? I absolutely love The Ballerina vibrator from Smile Makers! It's a blue, pebble-shaped vibrator that cups the vulva, so it touches all the right places.
What makes it so good? It's different from other vibrators with its human touch texture! You can really tell the difference from other sex toys. I can also enjoy it hand-free because I can easily hold it in place with my thighs. If you're like me (and probably most females) who can orgasm only through clitoral stimulation, then definitely get it.
How do you use it? When I use it alone, I just lie on my back and put it on my vulva. I start with the lowest intensity and then gradually increase it until I reach an orgasm. When having sex with my partner, I like to use it when I'm on all fours and my sex partner is hitting me from the back. That's a guaranteed orgasm for us both!
What is your sex toy of choice? We-Vibe Touch. It is a big, tongue-shaped power machine.
What makes it so good? It is rechargeable (and holds its charge so well), has a deep throbbing vibration and the soft silicone touch. If it’s direct clitoral stimulation that you’re after, you won’t last long with this baby!
How do you use it? You can use this solo, or with your partner. However, it is best used directly on your clit!
What is your sex toy of choice? LELO Soraya Wave rabbit massager. It claims to give a "full-body orgasmic experience", which I can confirm is true. It has a dildo built in and it is bloody amazing.
What makes it so good? It kind of clamps around the clitoris in a perfect way. And it has a really intense feeling that gives me an orgasm quickly.
How do you use it? I don't like to use it alone because I am just one of those people who prefers actual sex, but it's great in those moments where you are super horny. It is so nice, and it is such an intense feeling. I highly recommend.
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