Choosing to spend the rest of your life with someone is a major milestone in a relationship, usually marked by a proposal. Aside from planning how to actually pop the question, there’s one detail that many people deem the most important – the ring.
For some it’s a total surprise picked by their partner, for others it’s a collaborative process. For one woman, it’s proving to be a source of conflict with her fiancé at what should be a happy time.
Under the username ‘Grandma’s Ring’, the 34 year old took to Reddit to seek advice about her dilemma.
“I was very close with my paternal grandma, and when she died about five years ago, she left me her wedding/engagement ring. Ever since then, I’ve had a fantasy about using her ring as my own wedding/engagement ring when I get married,” she wrote.
“It’s not really a normal engagement ring by today’s standards… it is a yellow gold band with a bunch of smaller diamonds but no solitaire, but I love it and it makes me feel close to her on the rare occasions that I wear it (I only wear it on very special occasions because I don’t wear a lot of jewellery anyway usually, and it feels too special to wear every day anyway.)
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“Not only is it very sentimental to me, but she and my grandpa had a beautiful marriage that I would love to emulate in my own life,” she wrote.
While the woman and her partner are not “officially” engaged, they’re already planning for the wedding. He wants to ask her properly with a ring – and that’s where the problem starts. (Post continues after gallery.)