The divorce is final and you’re ready to think about acting out on your stifled sexual desires. Good for you!
For me, those desires didn’t manifest themselves until after I had the paperwork in hand and my maiden name back. Unfortunately, the desire was there, but the time and partners took their time showing up.
Whether you’re jumping back into sex or you’re navigating a new relationship, here are a few unexpected benefits to post-divorce sex to keep in mind:
1. Orgasms mean better sleep:
Okay, I’m assuming you have found a partner who knows how to give you orgasms or you finally learned how to speak up and say, “A little to the left” or “Not so fast” to get what you want. Hell, maybe you’ve finally discovered the wonderful world of masturbation. Sex with yourself is still sex. Either way, all those orgasms will relax you and help you sleep much better.
2. You’re more than a mum, boss, or divorced single woman:
Feeling less than desirable in your sensible work pants or stained t-shirt? Yeah, I get it. After a night where you put on the pretty bra and panties, rub on the good lotion, and finally have some sex, you’ll be reminded that you’re so much more than your other titles. You’re also a sexual, sensual woman who deserves all the pleasure in the world.
3. You get to try new things:
There’s something about a divorce that can feel like a fresh start on life. Your sex life should be no different. Curious about bondage? Been thinking about different positions? What about that one thing you would never do for your husband? This is the time to start experimenting.
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4. Freedom to reinvent yourself:
This goes beyond trying a new position. Sex as a single adult is a completely different world, and when it’s good, it can be a great ego booster. You’re a sexy, desirable woman, damn it - start acting like it.
Show of hands - who said, “I will never get married again!” after their divorce was final? Me too. I’m several years past that point, but before I came across the man I’d be willing to marry, I dated a few people at the same time. It was fun and invigorating. We knew it was a casual thing and the expectations were low. So casual dating with multiple men means you can, if you want, to have sex with different people. No more ruts. No more anticipating the moves before they happen. No more knowing his “signal” or “O-face.” It can be a new experience every day (or night).