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What do you do on the due date of the baby you miscarried?

The question of what to do on what was supposed to be the birth date of the baby you miscarried is a tough one.

Firstly, there is no right answer. Maybe you completely ignore it and go about your day, shutting out those difficult emotions. Maybe you grieve, or memorialise your loss, your child, somehow. Maybe you have a good cry with your partner.

Or maybe you just want to drink gin and watch trashy movies with your closest girlfriends. That’s what comedian and radio presenter Em Rusciano is doing.

Em Rusciano with her husband Scott Barrow. Image via Instagram.

"I was supposed to give birth tomorrow," she told listeners on Wednesday. "When you lose a baby . . . no one really tells you what to do when the due date comes around. There's no manual. I was just gonna try to power through it [but] it's been looming on the horizon like a dark cloud."

Instead Rusciano is taking a very short break, with comedian Celeste Barber filling in until she resumes on Monday the 27th of November.

"What I'm going to do is, my bestfriend Michael Lucas is coming over and he's bringing a bottle of gin, and Barbara Streisand is releasing her Netflix special, so we're going to watch [that] and drink gin. And that's how I'm spending the day that I was supposed to be giving birth," she said.

Talking to co-host Harley Bree, Rusciano expressed her confusion and sadness.

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"I don't know what to do with myself..." she confessed on her radio show.


"I just want to let any woman know who's listening ... I don't know how you did it. I don't know how I'm going to do it. This week's been hard."

Announcing her miscarriage at 14 weeks earlier this year, Rusciano has been nothing but blatantly honest about her struggles. Sharing the news in a very emotional Facebook post, there was one line in particular that stood out.

“A lot of you know exactly what I’m going through, this kind of loss isn’t uncommon and yet it feels entirely unique to me,” she wrote.

Instead Rusciano been trying to raise awareness. It's widely known that in Australia one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage and the radio presenter stressed the importance of increasing conversation, even if it's difficult.

"I don't want to - every instinct in me is to shut up, make jokes and power on," but instead she's launching a national comedy tour beginning in February next year.

"My whole standup show next year is about the miscarriage... but that's work shop my grief, in a leotard on stage for two hours... and if I can make you guys feel lighter then that's my job as a comedian and performer," she said.