What I remember most about the beginning of my relationship with James Alwyn Montgomery, my ex-husband, was how he pursued me.
He’d posted an ad in the America Online romance section—this was back when AOL ruled the Internet.
He sounded much more intriguing than most men—a former Australian Green Beret, a background in TV and movies, now negotiating with Atlantic City movers and shakers for his next big business venture. The reason for the ad? His wife had died, and his “grieving was complete.”
Reading James’ claims now, one could wonder why anyone—specifically me—would believe them. But this was before we could Google people to check them out. And it was before I knew that someone who proclaimed he was so head-over-heels in love with me could be lying.
When I met James in 1996, I was 40 years old, never married. Although I’d dated a lot of men, I’d never experienced anything like the attention this particular man lavished on me.
He called many times a day. He e-mailed me poetry. He sent faxes with mushy sentiments, complete with clip art of hearts and cupids. He proposed marriage within a week of meeting in me person. Why wasn’t this a huge red flag?
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Since childhood, I’d heard about love at first sight. In fact, I knew people who had fallen in love right away and were still married. I’d been waiting for my chance at true love for years. I thought my time had come.
James told me how much he respected my talent, and how I would be such an asset to his business plans. We were a formidable team, he said, and he wanted me to benefit from the success that his ventures were sure to become.
Then, not long after he proposed, he also recommended that I invest in the business —$5000 would buy me a few percentage points of ownership.