“Hours after my diagnosis, I was numb. I couldn’t eat, cry, sleep or even talk.”

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I panicked when I first felt the lump, but I convinced myself that, at 31, I was too young for it to be anything sinister. Hours after my diagnosis, I was numb. I couldn’t eat, cry, sleep or even talk. As the days went on I felt a huge range of emotions. Fear was a big one. And sadness. There were so many questions. Why me? How was I going to tell my kids? My mind was consumed with thoughts about what my future would bring and not seeing my babies grow up.

To me the ‘c’ word meant a death sentence and something I didn’t want to think about.

But the reality was my breast cancer was very aggressive. I chose to have a bilateral mastectomy with immediate reconstruction. Surgery was tough. I had to spend excruciating hours in nuclear medicine, having radioactive dye injected into my breasts so they could find my lymph nodes and test whether the cancer had spread.

Following my surgery, I had a high risk of infection and was isolated from everyone for five weeks. Not always being able to see my kids and cuddle them every day was heart-breaking. Then, on top of everything, I contracted neutropenia while I was going through chemotherapy; a condition that reduces the number of white blood cells in your body, which makes it harder for your immune system to fight off infections. Everyone had to wear masks around me. It was very confronting, and I felt so alone.

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It sounds silly, but I sometimes felt that my emotions would be a burden on others. When I felt like being sad, I would stop myself because everyone thought I was so strong and I didn’t want to let them down. So I would make jokes at my own expense and then cry in the bathroom where no one could see me. I still do this at times.

People see the happy, easy-going Laura that they know and love. But there will always be an inner turmoil that will never go away. I will never just be able to get on with life as normal. I have to find a new normal. The treatment I had put me into early menopause. I get hot flushes, have gained weight, and I will never be able to have another child. But my surgeon is confident, and so is my oncologist, that the cancer is gone. And I am too of course. I feel incredibly lucky and grateful to be here. I’ve learned to see all the little things in my life with a new appreciation because I’m still here to do them.

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Through it all, my children kept me going. On days when all I wanted to do was stay in bed and wallow, I had no choice but to get up and be their mummy. They gave me a purpose and a reason to get out of bed every day.

During that time, Mother’s Day was shrouded in uncertainty and sadness. But this year I’m stronger and looking forward to spending it with my family.

Laura and her boys. Image: supplied.

Being alive is no longer a given. It’s a privilege, and one that I will never take for granted.

I know that Mother’s Day means a lot for many people, and my heart goes out to all those who will be missing their mum on Mother’s Day, and who indeed miss their mum every day. My mum has been a tower of strength for me and I don’t know what I would have done without her.

My greatest wish is that people will, this Mother’s Day, gift a donation to live-saving breast cancer trials research. This research conducted by Breast Cancer Trials is so important to ensuring that people get the treatments they need to survive breast cancer and to spare them what I went through.

You can choose a beautiful Mother’s Day card for your mum which acknowledges your special gift.

And please remember, you’ll both be helping real people whose lives are valued by many, who have children and grandchildren to love and care for, and who have hopes and dreams for the future.

Please donate now at breastcancertrials.org.au.

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