The MRI took place on Saturday morning, and by noon on Monday the doctor rang my mum to tell her the test results had come in. She asked whether she could have the results revealed over the phone, as was his normal practice when nothing was wrong. Mum had had symptoms of headaches, difficulty concentrating, and dizzy spells, and brain tumours run in our family, so an MRI of her head was recommended, just to be prudent.
“You need to come in,” he answered instead and booked her in for an appointment at 12.45.
I left work as soon as she called me with the news and arrived at the doctor’s surgery just in time. Mum asked me to stay in the waiting room while she spoke with him.
“This is something I need to hear by myself,” she said.
It was a long 20 minutes. She emerged with a wry smile that was difficult to read. Either it was good news or she was desperately trying to save face in the waiting room.
“It’s good news,” she announced as we stepped outside. “No tumours, no blood clots. I have scarring on the right side of my brain from head trauma. I have to see a neurologist. But it’s not life threatening.”
I guess she expected me to share in her relief.
And I was relieved. But the words rang in my ears. Head trauma. Then the images began to ring too. My dad punching my mum in the head over and over. There was no sound, and I couldn’t even imagine how the punches had sounded—were they cracks of knuckles hitting skull? Whacks of flesh hitting flesh? I knew I had been screaming at the time, but my memories hadn’t processed anything but the visuals.
It was almost 10 years ago. I was 15 years old and watching television in my room. I heard my parents yelling at each other all the variants and derivatives of ‘f*ck’. This was happening increasingly often so it didn’t alarm me. It was only when the screaming changed from words to just noises that I realised the fight had progressed from verbal to physical.
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I stepped out of my room into the corridor and froze. I saw my mum sitting, her legs oddly crossed, her eyes closed and her body slumped. My dad grabbed a fistful of her hair to lift her up from the floor and with the other fist pummelled her in the head. Her face remained lifeless as her body sunk into the ground from the force. He lifted her up again by the hair and punched her in the head again. She collapsed in a heap.
He’s done it, I had thought. He’s killed her.
He then grabbed two fistfuls of her hair and rammed her head into the wall. The right side of her head.
“You know what the head trauma was,” I stated, knowing now why her smile had been so wry.
“Yes,” she answered quietly.
To our friends that knew about the test and were expecting the results, we lied and said the trauma was caused by a “car accident” a few years ago. Ironically, a “car accident” was a good way to describe my parents’ marriage.