I have four daughters. That’s a lot of ‘vagina management’.
I remember sitting my teenage daughters around the table and starting the conversation about sex and their changing bodies. I thought it would take an hour max.
We moved the conversation to the dinner table and it took six months. Every night we’d nominate a topic for the next night, which gave me the next day to do the research.
There’s a lot to know. There’s a lot that I didn’t know. Now that three of my daughters live out of home I have a sense of maternal pride that I have given them an undergraduate degree in understanding their undercarriage!
It’s not just about periods and the mechanics of sex. As a mum and as a woman who’s been there, it’s important to share all the facets of managing an active sexuality. Like what to do when you get a UTI.
That’s a Urinary Tract Infection. Or cystitis. It’s often characterised by an unpleasant burning sensation or an increased frequency of urination.
I remember when it happened to me – I had no idea what was happening. I was 23 and I confided in an older woman at work that I thought I had a kidney infection.
She laughed and said, “Nup you have a UTI. Did you have wild sex last night?” I was so embarrassed. I had no idea that protected sex could be followed by such an excruciating and painful morning after.
Why hadn’t my mother told me this? I asked her and she admitted that even though she’d had numerous infections – she didn’t know that much about it.
So here is a crash course in the six things I wish my mum had told me about UTIs that can help you talk to your daughter about it.