Victoria Baldwin and her ex-husband Adam have chosen not to be married to each other anymore, but that doesn’t mean they are not still a family.
Along with a series of photos spanning several years submitted to the Love What Matters Facebook page, Baldwin writes that while she and Adam might not always like each other, they go out of their way to participate in family photo shoots with their son.
“The top two photos were taken when Adam and I were married,” she writes.
“The bottom two, taken nearly one year and over two years after our divorce was finalized. We are not in love, we don’t always agree, we’re not best friends, sometimes we don’t even like one another. But you know what we are? We are forever connected because of our beautiful, smart, kind, compassionate, funny son.”
Baldwin explains that by respecting one another, she and her ex-husband are able to remember that they are both equally important in their son’s life.
“We BOTH need to be there, we BOTH deserve quality time and quality memories with him,” she writes, explaining that while they are not perfect co-parents, they have stuck to the deal they made when they divorced.
“A deal to put our son first and to value the richness that we each bring to his life, for different reasons.”
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It’s for that reason Baldwin says they still have a family portrait taken and she still pays to have the image printed, framed and placed in their son’s bedroom.
“He may not grow up with parents who live in the same house,” Baldwin writes, “but he will grow up to see respect, kindness, empathy, compassion, perseverance, flexibility, and even sacrifice being modeled by both of his parents and he will know it is possible to fall out of love but never fall apart.”
The end of a marriage is hard—and it can be especially tough when there are children involved. But Baldwin and her ex-husband prove that though feelings may be hurt, it’s possible to continue to provide your child with a good example of respect and love of family.