Think back to when you were younger and you dreamed of your wedding day – white dress, bouquets, bridesmaids. Yeah, we know – we’re being anti-feminist but we’re also being honest. Most little girls want to get married when they grow up – if only for the fancy-pants frock.
You dreamed your day would be the beginning of a lifetime of commitment and happiness between you and your chosen beau.
Nowhere in those dreams did you picture a divorce – not in your old age but especially not in your twenties. You dreamed of growing old together (if you’re married now, you probably still do). You dreamed of a lifetime of love.
Run away together forever. Yes, please.
But in our modern world where young men and women are equally ambitious to have a career, to settle down in the perfect location, to tick every travel destination off their bucket list (or save to go on their one dream trip) ‘growing old together’ isn’t always the way. And so divorce is becoming a reality for more and more young couples.
And while it is a reality for more young people today, it doesn’t have to make you feel like a failure.
Jodi Erman, 29 spoke to Huffington Post about being in her twenties and being divorced. While she admitted that it wasn’t something she shouted from the rooftops, she also didn’t wallow in pity and most definitely didn’t surrender to a life of loneliness beyond thirty.
“So many divorcés bring up the d-word because they think they have to. They assume people are wondering about it, so they bring it up to show that they are OK with it. I’m here to say you don’t have to worry about it. Adopt — or refuse to adopt — any label you want,” she told Huffington Post.