It’s a tough conversation. One of you wants more sex, and the other probably hasn’t realised there was a problem. They’re not interested in more sex, or maybe they’re not interested in sex in general.
But it’s a conversation that needs to happen.
Constantly asking for, or trying for, something the other person doesn’t want to give can be frustrating and rapidly confidence depleting. On the other hand, or trying to give something you’re not interested in giving, can be harrowing and unfulfilling.
That’s why you need to talk about it.
Sure, ‘owning’ differing sex drives can be tough. Admitting you no longer feel interested in sex, or asking your partner for more frequent or experimental sex, can be difficult to do without one of you feeling shamed.
But this shame is for NO REASON.
Two different people, with different bodies and desires, aren’t going to be 100% compatible 100% of the time. For this reason, we’ve put together the key factors to consider when discussing different sex drives with your partner.
Talk about it. Don’t consider it a ‘problem’, and don’t turn it into an argument. It’s normal, and it’s certainly understandable.
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Don’t use blame, and don’t take it personally.
This is number one for a reason, and it goes both ways.
The person wanting more sex should remember their partner’s ‘lack’ of interest might have nothing to do with them – it might be hormones, stress, tiredness, other factors. And, for this reason, blame should have nothing to do with this conversation.