When do you text and when do you talk?
Advice columnist Wendy Squires has firm views on both that might seem old-fashioned to younger generations. Then again, she really doesn’t give a stuff.
Last week my best friend told me she was pregnant via a text message, then my boyfriend dumped me the same way. What ever happened to being polite and picking up the phone when something is important?
Ah, my dear friend, you must be of a certain vintage like I. I’m afraid society today sees us as fossils, about as redundant as Beta cassette, (you young readers can look it up) or, as my late mother used to say, tits on a bull.
You see, like me, you were likely brought up with manners and strict codes of etiquette. However, I fear these too are something current generations will have to Google as they have gone the way of melon ballers and romance, rendered quaint but quite unnecessary in these less genteel times.
To answer your question yes, I do feel your pain and empathise with your disappointment at your recent missives – but only to a point. Because the fact is, I am resolved to the reality that texts are here to stay as first-call communication, their insidious high-pitched “bings’ now the town criers of old (Note, youngsters, these are not sad men. Best keep that dictionary out.).
To be honest, your week could have been worse. You could have been one of 100 employees of Hutchinson Ports Australia who received text messages just before midnight Thursday telling them they’re fired. Nice, huh? Real sensitive. And to think once upon a time you were given a gold watch! (It was an actual tradition for bosses to give gold watches to employees upon leaving in the past. I know, totes cool!).
But back to Talktomedammit’s dilemma. First, your girlfriend and her pregnancy news. Now, this I can relate to as one of my nearest and dearest, who shall remain nameless (hi Mia!), informed me of all her three pregnancies via text. However, I was not upset in the slightest as this is how we have always communicated.
We have a deal that unless we are face to face we don’t speak, we text and email. There are several reasons for this, the main being we like to accumulate conversation topics and then let rip when we are together. It’s a bit like binge watching TV shows, only not. Anyway, it works for us.
However, I realise other female friendships necessitate frequent verbal communication (all a bit early Nineties to me but hey, I’m not judging) and thus, when something of magnitude happens, it is expected to be relayed in this traditional manner. If it is not, it’s deemed rude. I get it. But I also think in this instance Talktomedammit, you should get over it.