As much as I love my husband, after leaving him with our son for a week, I have come to the realisation I do not love his solo parenting abilities.
In fact, it was a bit of an eye opener about how much I do and how very little he does in relation to domestic tasks or everyday child caring tasks.
Yes, both he and my son came through alive, unharmed and relatively happy – but at the same time, our ‘family fun’ money was spent on Uber Eats, no one cleaned…anything, not even themselves and rather than getting out and spending quality time together, they stayed housebound watching Disney movies and Netflix.
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My husband who is rarely at home with our child alone had the primary role of looking after him while I went away to a work conference for a week. I was initially hesitant to go but after my husband assured me that he was 200 per cent confident that he could “easily” parent solo I made the decision to go for it.
Like most mums, I left lists of the routine, grocery orders, general information that he may require to alleviate any issues, but when I returned home I found the list at the bottom of an Uber Eats package mountain that had formed while I was away.
When I returned home I didn’t react to the mess, the smells (yes, my son actually smelt) or the fact that our bank account that was meant for all of us to do something really fun with was completely drained on convenience food. The shock overcame any reaction that was even thinking of coming to the surface.
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Ask him, "Is this how you are going to feed him when you have visitation weekends?"
The first day, okay, but after that, it should have been back to real life.
My oldest daughter told me that when I left on business trips, she often did not get fed at all, and when she did get something, he acted like he was doing her a big favor. She was 8.
So, at least your jerk husband fed the child, but that is a pretty low bar. It was also pretty jerky of him to throw shade about the kid not getting junk food when you are home, like that is somehow a bad thing.
I think you should seriously talk with him about how he is going to handle visitation weekends because he is clearly not taking marriage very seriously.
You.. can expect your husband to be a equal contributor, not burn through savings that are meant for all of you, cook meals for both you and your child, bathe the kid and make sure he has clean clothes on, tidy the house so when you get back from working all week you don't have to stress out at the state of your home... You know, all of the things that you're expected to do.