Love and sex. Two very important factors in a relationship. But are you getting them mixed up and expecting love in return for sex?
Whilst for some people there is a clear difference, however for others the lines seemed to be blurred. Let’s take a look at the tell-tale signs:
1. Your relationships just aren’t lasting
Chances are you have a history of broken relationships, as they never seem to get past a certain point. You want more, but they just can’t seem to commit or give you what you really yearn for. When we confuse sex for love, we leave ourselves open to attracting and getting into relationships with the wrong type of people.
Being intimate with someone might mean you feel a connection to them, but it doesn’t mean it is reciprocated. When someone truly loves you, sleeping with them won’t become the focus or main foundation in which your relationship is built on.
2. You give everything away first go
When we yearn for love, we often think that the more we give, the more we will get back. It’s easy to just say yes and give away all your pearls on the first date. But most of the time this only leads to a one-night stand. Learning to set boundaries from the beginning and having more self-value means that you can attract someone that wants you for your soul and heart, not just your body.
3. You use sex as a way to gain attention or company
Let’s face it, if you are giving out the vibe then chances are someone (usually the wrong type of someone) is going to pick up on it. The wrong type of attention does not signify love. Learning to be comfortable in your own skin, on your own and with no one around is a big feat. But it is a necessary skill we have to acquire in order to learn the difference between seeking someone for the right or wrong reasons.