It seemed like just a normal day. I had dropped my two girls off at school and was busy at work. Then the call came through. My six-year-old daughter had run away: out of the classroom, out of the school, down the street.
A man driving his car had stopped, because he thought it was strange to see a young girl out on her own. A woman walking down the street had stopped too. They had brought her back to the school. She was okay.
Why had she run away? Because she was angry with her teacher. Where was she going? Home. Only we live several kilometres away. My daughter had never walked home before. She had never even crossed the street by herself before.
I went to the school and sat through a meeting with the principal and my daughter. We tried to make her understand how dangerous it was for her to be out on the streets on her own. She hugged me and said sorry and promised she would never do it again.
Of course that wasn't the end of it. I kept having nightmare visions of how it could have ended. The school ringing me to say my daughter had been hit by a car. The school ringing me to say my daughter was missing. What if the man driving by hadn't been a nice guy? There have been stories in our local paper recently about a predator approaching girls in our suburb. What if he had been the man driving by?
My daughter has always been strong-willed. You could probably call her naughty (or, as her teacher says, she has a tendency to "make bad decisions"). Back in the bad old days, she would have got the cane on a regular basis. Nowadays, there's not a lot the school can do to punish kids like her. Don't get me wrong - this is good. But she's not afraid to break the rules.
You're probably thinking it's all my fault for being a soft parent. But my other daughter is a model student who never gets in trouble. So I know it's not just me.
To be honest, I'm terrified. Now that she's run away from school once, there's nothing to stop her doing it again. The next time it might not end so well. The teacher can't run after her - she's got 20 other kids she's responsible for. She called the front office, which was the right thing to do, but obviously, my daughter had a head start.
Here's a video about how vulnerable children are to abduction. Post continues after video.
You want to think you can drop your kids off at school and not have to worry about them for the next six hours, but that's not true. You have to worry about them all the time, if you have a kid like mine. There aren't enough teachers to keep an eye on every kid, every minute of the day.
So what do I do? Cross my fingers and hope it doesn't happen again? Homeschool her till she matures a bit?
I'm not overreacting, am I?
I'm sure my kid isn't the first one to have run away from school. I would love to hear from any other parents who have been through this. Did your kid only run away once, or did they keep doing it?
Can anyone give me advice?
The writer is known to The Motherish, but has chosen to remain anonymous to protect her daughters.