But the accumulated weariness brought on by parenting sometimes bursts out at the seams in the form of harradin screams, berating my child for not finding his hat, or for forgetting his homework book.
Occasionally I take refuge in a special café on the way to work. I chat to Craig and Finnegan, father and son pair, who are there every morning for half an hour or so before school.
What an indulgence, eh? Fancy getting to a café before school every day – how organised would you have to be?
Except Finnegan is a special needs child, who is home-schooled.
Before the teacher arrives for the day, Finnegan and his Dad go to the café, where they are known by all, have their breakfast, and look at one of the books or brightly-coloured brochures his Dad has brought along for that morning’s amusement.
The four questions every kid asks Jess Smith on I Don’t Know How She Does It.
Still sounds pretty good, doesn’t it?
A bit of morning entertainment before the real day begins. But Finnegan does not have full muscular control of his limbs, and like all kids, he is not always interested in breakfast, so getting a spoon of porridge into his mouth requires the kind of patience that most of us just dream about.
Finnegan does not speak, but he is learning to communicate. He has learnt that he must look at and wave to all the ‘regulars’, like myself, who say hello and goodbye.
I sit down to chat to Craig; he is well read and endlessly interesting, though if our conversation gets too focused, Finnegan, like all children, has his ways of drawing our attention back to him. If he is excited, Finnegan might bounce up and down, and make loud noises while looking at the pictures, or clap his hands.
When he knows you well, he will reach out and touch your hand, a way of acknowledging that you are welcome in his circle. It’s a special gift which he imparts, and one is privileged to receive it.