For mum Andrea Lunsford it’s the little things that can turn into a battle.
An uneven row of shampoo bottles in a shop, a book out of place or a small square of paper left behind when she removes the plastic wrapper from a container of chocolate pudding.
But right now its not a battle with her son with OCD she’s waging, but a battle with the critics after a video she shared on her Vlog “Fooley Living” copped a barrage of unnecessary criticism over her parenting skills. Andrea Lunsford, 39, says in fact all she is trying to do is help her three-year-old overcome his OCD.
Rafael, aged 3 has OCD. ( Via Fooly Living)
Lunsford filmed her son Rafael, who has been diagnosed with OCD and high functioning autism, while he struggled to cope with an irregularity in the wrapper of his chocolate pudding.
The American mum who lives in Israel, battles with Rafael as he tells her to open the container and she gently reminds him that it is already open.
At one stage she pokes her finger into the container to prove to the little boy that it really is open, and while he expresses his dismay at this he does lick the treat off his mum’s finger.
While he expresses his dismay at this he does lick the treat of his mum’s finger. ( Via Fooly Living)
Lunsford shared the video, she told Mamamia, to show an example of an issue that he has to deal with multiple times a day, every day.
“I thought it would be helpful for other parents to know they are not alone,” she said.
“Maybe a parent will see the video and realise why their child is having these behaviours and that it might be OCD. Maybe it will comfort them, knowing that there are ways to treat it and that it isn't hopeless.”
While there was great support for her video, in amongst it was something she never expected - Lunsford was branded as “cruel". It was claimed she was “laughing at him”, one commenter said might “traumatize the child” another said she was making him “extremely upset.”
These are critisisms that Andrea Lunsford takes seriously because in actuality what she was doing was far from cruel, but what any loving mum would do – helping her little boy.
Andrea and Rafael (Via Fooly Living)
She says that in the video Rafael “had higher than normal anxiety, but he wasn't to the point where he was having a meltdown or at his breaking point.”
“I could definitely tell that he was obsessing over that piece of paper still left on the pudding cup, even though it was not hindering him from eating it.”
While her Vlog details many areas of her life with humour, her son’s OCD is something she takes very seriously.
“Not very many people are willing to show what it actually is, especially in children.
"This is our life though, and this is what we're dealing with now.”
To those who said she was laughing at her little boy she says this, “I would never laugh at my son, or anyone who is struggling. For someone to watch this video and even think that I'm laughing at my son is really interpreting it all wrong. I don't even see how someone could perceive that. I do all I can to help my son.”