No more four eyes: How you can stop your kid’s bullies.

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I’ve been a “four eyes” pretty much my whole life.

“Mum,” I asked, age 10, “is it normal to see everything kinda… blurry sometimes?”

Stirring a pot on the stove, she sighed as she wiped her hands a tea towel.

“Off to the optometrist with you then…”

Over the years, those little wire-framed specs I had became the first of a collection that encompassed wacky shapes and bright colours, designer brands and trendy styles. These days, I have just three pairs on rotation, and I love them. Glasses are part of who I am.

But it wasn’t always that way, of course.

Growing up on the sunburnt bitumen of Queensland meant tall poppy syndrome was rife, especially as a kid. Particularly as a nerdy kid. And very much so as a nerdy kid with glasses!

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Parents are often at a loss of what to do when they sense their child is being bullied, and the sad truth is often the answer is often – not a lot. Equipping your child with strong self-confidence and the tools to handle bullies is the first step.

So, it’s time to take back the term “four eyes”, and work as a parent to make your child feel happy and confident.

"Parents are often at a loss of what to do when they sense their child is being bullied." Image: iStock.

“Knowing your weaknesses makes you stronger.”

Explain to your children that knowing what your weakness is, is a tool that actually makes you stronger in the long run. Accepting that your eyes are not perfect means that you know exactly what you need to know to protect yourself.

“Everyone has a weakness.”

Some weaknesses are on the outside, like bad eyesight, and some are on the inside, like poor self-esteem. Assure your child that every person has a weakness - their bully included.

“Glasses are cool.”

Yeah yeah, I know what you’re thinking. This is the oldest trick in the book! But seriously, show your kids some pictures of famous movie stars and celebrities who are glasses wearers. There are plenty, and they look fabulous.

“Bullies dislike themselves more than you.”

This is a powerful lesson for a kid to learn; when a bully is projecting nastiness onto another person, it’s because they are not happy inside. Often the things they are picking on you for - bad eyesight, being a nerd - reflects something about themselves they are jealous of, or don’t like.

“Glasses change nothing.”

What can’t you do as a glasses wearer? Um, NOTHING! You can run, swim, hike, play football - all the normal things you did before getting glasses. Contact lenses and sports frames make it all possible.

The best tool you have as a parent is keeping the lines of communication open with the school, specifically your child’s teacher. They will be your child’s greatest protection during school hours, and will also be able to give you accurate information about exactly what’s happening, from whom, saying what.

"You can run, swim, hike, play football - all the normal things you did before getting glasses." Image: iStock.

According to Australia’s National Centre Against Bullying, it’s important to check up on the school’s bullying policy before heading in for a meeting, as it will shape what you think they might be able to do to help.

“Check your school's bullying/online bullying policy,” writes the NCAB.

“This may be contained within the behaviour or wellbeing policy. It might be available on the school's website or printed in the school diary. Note what the policy promises to do to keep children safe from harm and respond to the situation.”

The NCAB also encourages parents to educate themselves on what bullying truly is. Breaking your kid’s glasses in half? Bullying. Teasing them once about wearing them? Maybe not so much so. There are shades and variations of what constitutes healthy relationships with kids, and being fearful of change or people looking "different" is part of it.

Remember, at the end of the day, the most effective tool against bullying is making your child believe they are not a victim. Glasses are not a barrier against being ‘normal’, they’re a tool for making life feel, well, more normal.

Confidence is hard won and easily lost, so make sure your kids love their four eyes as much as you!

What advice do you give your kids when it comes to dealing with bullies?

The OPSM #IAM4EYES campaign is designed to redefine the 'Four Eyes' schoolyard taunt and give kids the confidence to wear their glasses with pride. Let’s flip the stigma attached to wearing glasses and use #IAM4EYES to celebrate an individual’s strengths, not the weakness usually associated with the taunt ‘four eyes’.

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