The 10 signs that mean your partner will cheat.

By: Fiona Fine for YourTango.

Don’t be one of the 37 million.

In the wake of the Ashley Madison security scandal, marriage is sounding a little less appealing. With a reported 37 million users – statistically, that’s scary! – it makes you wonder, what led millions of people to sign up and cheat on their partners

What was the tipping point in their marriages?

Reality check: Marriage isn’t for everyone and people will always cheat.

But that doesn’t mean your situation has to end up like someone else’s. Knowing what works and what doesn’t for your relationship, you can ward off any Ashley Madison temptation.

Here are ten common faux pas to watch out for before you (or your partner) end up as a statistic:

1. You’re treating each other like mind readers.

When you think you know each other like the back of your hand, you tend to expect your spouse to know what you want from them. They won’t and can’t, so don’t expect it unless you clearly tell them what you want. Communicate and ask for what you need.

2. You’re playing the Blame Game.

Your marriage isn’t a whodunit. If something went wrong, take 100 percent accountability for your part in the situation. It’s up to you to fix it. You can’t rely on someone else to.

Treating each other like mind readers. Not good. Image via iStock.

3. You got married/will get married at an older age.

new study shows that if you wait to marry past the age of 32, there’s a 5 percent increase in divorce rate. Maybe it’s the unwillingness to change or compromise your habits by then.


4. You're not listening.

If you’re not listening to each other, chances are you’re running into miscommunication big time. In order to master communication with each other, you have to learn to listen for meaning as well as what they’re telling you. I tell people to listen as if their life depends on it (because your relationship does)!

5. You're limiting each other (AKA growth and support).

Marriage isn’t the end of your life - it's a new beginning. When your spouse starts a new project, be there for them in a supportive way anyway. Embrace their growth because you would want and ask for the same.

"Marriage isn’t the end of your life - it's a new beginning." Image via iStock.

6. You're not being honest.

When you start to hide things from each other, you're walking down a deadly path. If you do something that you wouldn’t tell your spouse about it, you may not want to do it. Mystery is sexy, but secrets are deadly.

7. You’re emotionally withdrawing yourself.

You should never shut out your spouse/partner from your feelings. If you’re emotionally going through a trying time, reconnect with your spouse instead of looking for someone else.

8. You don’t date each other.

You don't stop dating after you get married. Dating was the fun part of your relationship, when you put your best foot forward. Set a date night each week (ideally) or at minimum monthly to keep the novelty and spark alive. (And prevent eyes and hearts from wandering.)

"You don’t date each other." Image via iStock.

9. You assume you know everything.

Being married doesn’t mean you know everything about your spouse. People change over the years. Keep asking each other those all important questions: What do you want? Where do you see us in [x] years? What can I do for you? What is working great/what would you like to adapt or change?

10. You give up too easily.

A failed marriage sometimes is due to a lack of determination to make things work when things get tough. Show that your marriage or partnership can withstand the strongest of storms. It makes your bond stronger.

For some relationships, marriage is all about being legally bound to each other, yet for others it’s purely a state of mind. Either way you consider it, it's about making yourself happy while also making each other happy. If you can accomplish that, you shouldn’t have to worry about you or your spouse becoming one of the 37 million people on a hacked cheater’s website.

Fiona Fine is a relationship and communications expert who specialises in men-women interactions. 

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