Big transformation? Big red flag.
A few years ago, the woman now known as Aysha Mehajer was April Amelia Learmonth, a quiet beautician from the South Coast with strawberry blonde hair and freckles.
But when she married Auburn deputy mayor Salim Mehajer last weekend, that identity was long gone. April had become flashy, traffic-stopping turbobride Aysha, complete with fake tan, long black hair, a 22kg dress and a cavalcade of luxury cars.
By then, she’d long swapped the South Coast for Western Sydney. She’d also ditched her old name and her old appearance. And according to a news.com.au report, she is thought to have converted to Islam years ago.
Now, of course there is absolutely nothing wrong or unusual about a young woman experimenting with her looks. Nor is there anything wrong or unusual about changing or abandoning your own religion so you can marry the love of your life (hey, my own grandparents did it). And it’s not wrong or unusual to move around, discover new interests, and change and grow when you’re a young adult.
But surely I’m not the only one who sees such an extreme transformation as a pretty big red flag?
Because from the outside looking in, it appears as if Aysha is either one of two things: a seriously insecure young woman struggling to find her own identity, or someone who believes she needs to become a whole new person in order to hold onto a relationship.
Neither option is healthy. Sadly though, it’s not uncommon. At all.
Check out Aysha and Salim’s epic wedding video. Post continues after video:
Over the years, I’ve known lots of women who have seemed to assume new identities based on whoever they happened to be dating at the time.
There was the Grade A student who became a lazy stoner to suit her boyfriend’s interests.
There was the girl who suddenly discovered evangelical Christianity because that’s what some dude she digged was into.
There was a woman who dressed and groomed herself to reflect the cultural background of each and every boyfriend.