One minute life was going smoothly, I had my belated honeymoon to Thailand coming up in a few weeks and had just finished a huge work project.
And then: coronavirus. We cancelled the holiday and kept working, hoping we’d be able to re-book really soon.
It wasn’t until after I would have returned from the holiday that it started getting harder to go to work every day.
The kids were at home doing school around the dining table and the dread that comes with not knowing that my world is safe from one day to the next started to compound. I started taking shortcuts with my quality of work.
Nobody noticed, but I knew. It all just seemed kind of pointless now.
Watch: Is self-care selfish? Post continues after video.
Oprah has been telling us for years to do what we love and the money will follow. I believe her.
I’ve just never trusted myself enough to take that leap. Until now.
After years of friends telling me that I’d be a perfect life coach and knowing in my heart it’s where I should be, I completed a life coaching certification and started my own business. And more recently I’ve followed my other passion of writing for no other reason than that I enjoy it and it allows me to share what I know.
Apparently I’m not the only one. On top of all the mental health issues created by the outbreak of coronavirus and the naming of many industries as ‘non-essential’, for many, work stress just doesn’t seem worth it. Resignation rates are rising globally.
We’ve all figured out what’s not right, but how do we know what to do next?
Start with an idea.
Write down anything you’ve ever entertained doing for even a moment. It doesn’t matter if it’s a traditional ‘job’. Don’t limit yourself, if it comes to mind put it on the list.
Take the top three (or more, there are no rules here) items from your list and ask yourself, ‘Why do I want to do this?’
Make sure to include all the really selfish stuff, like ‘people will respect me’ or ‘I’m going to make a ton of money’. It’s hard to acknowledge our shadow self but we all have one, and once acknowledged you can choose to meet those needs on your own terms.
Determine your values.
This information shows what you value, which is key to getting your life together. If you value adventure and health, you may choose to work in the health industry and pursue your passion for adventure through rock climbing. Or you could combine both and join Doctors Without Borders. There is real satisfaction in aligning all of your values.