Caroline Overington is sure about love.
The best-selling author and Walkley-award winning journalist has been married to her husband, Martin, for 27 years and she believes the secret to achieving such longevity in love is rather straight-forward.
“It’s not about you.
“I’m thinking everyday what can I do to make [my husband’s] life better today? And that’s the basis of any marriage. It’s about the other person.
“Love is not about you. Love is about them. How can I improve their life, make their day a little better?”
It’s an insightful, relieving and very welcome observation in a world that is perhaps, these days, a little careless with love.
“You don’t realise how rare it is until you’re one of those people [who’ve been married for a long time]. A number of people are definitely getting divorced. To me, it’s always been very important to work at it and to make sure that we hang in there. That’s important. I feel like all the old clichés are true.”
It became clear that love was quite simple when she heard someone else overcomplicate it.
“I once heard a very famous woman talking about how she hasn’t got a partner. And the reason she doesn’t have a partner is because her life is so perfect, so exciting, she’s so successful and she earns her own money and owns her own apartment and it’s all very lovely and so what could a person possibly add to her life?