While Cassandra Thorburn spoke up this week about stay-at-home-mums vs working mums, I was really hoping she would answer the question everyone really wants to know:
Now she’s split from husband Karl Stefanovic, is she pissed off that she chucked her career in for his?
If she is, she didn’t say so. It sounds like she is happy at home with the kids and content with her choice to give up her job (albeit bitter about judgy working mothers, but that’s another story).
I made a similar decision a few years ago and although I don’t regret the time I got to spend with my children while they were so little, I am now starting to feel the full weight of my choice.
I too was doing OK for myself, climbing the career ladder and achieving everything that my university degree promised it would. But I wanted children too, so I took maternity leave that turned into a resignation – child care is expensive and I didn’t want to leave my babies with a stranger while they were so young. 'I'll take a few years out and get back into it when they’re at school,' I reasoned.
My husband and I briefly discussed the idea of him staying home so that I could continue working. I was making twice as much money as him at the time. But I wanted to be there for them when they were so little. And I felt I was the lucky one – yes it is hard work but I got all the baby cuddles, got to see the first steps, first words, got to experience all that is so good about having little kids. But that role starts to expire eventually when they grow up and don't need you as much anymore. So then what? If you're like me, you look around and realise your options are suddenly mega limited.
Before- and after-school care costs, the need to work out of normal hours with no child care options, and the fear of sick kids and school holiday hassles has meant the chances of me returning to a career I was good at and loved, are non-existent.