Raye Lee, from Missouri in the United States, decided to write the honest Facebook post to dispel the myth that having a c-section is taking ‘the easy way out’ and that she didn’t really give birth.
She wrote: “Ah, yes. My emergency c-section was absolutely a matter of convenience. It was really convenient to be in labor for 38 hours before my baby went into distress and then every contraction was literally STOPPING his HEART.”
Lee explained that she didn’t choose to have a c-section, but rather it was necessary to save the life of her baby, after a complicated labour. She wrote that having a “shrieking infant pulled out of an incision that is only 5 inches long” was a completely different experience to what she had imagined her sons birth to be.
“You use your core muscles for literally everything… even sitting down, imagine not being able to use them because they have literally been shredded and mangled by a doctor and not being able to repair them for 6+ weeks because your body has to do it naturally.”
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Lee wrote that her c-section was the most painful thing she has ever experienced and that she now belongs “to a bad ass tribe of mamas with the scar to prove that I had a baby cut out of me and lived to tell the tale”.
The original post has been shared over 72 000 times and has garnered more than 9100 comments, with many people thanking Raye Lee for her honest and empowering post, and sharing their own c-section stories.
One person commented: “My first c-section was an emergency c-section at 25 weeks because I had placenta previa that ended up as a placental abruption. I earned that scar”.
“Love this! Not all ladies are aware of the complexity of a c-section. All 4 of mine were born that way, because all were breech. 2 of them decided to come before their “scheduled ” due date. I may complain about my deflated “balloon” (which is what my belly looks like), but I am thankful for the way they were born. There would have been more complications if they were natural,” added another.
“I had a c section with my first and with my second I was so so so set on having a natural birth. After experiencing a caesarean, omg my labour (which was obviously fricking painful) was so much better! And going home the same day and not feeling like I had been sliced in half and every breath felt like being stabbed in the stomach for 10 weeks…Yh it’s definitely the easy option.”
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Raye Lee finished off her post by saying that she’s stronger from the experience: “Not only for myself, but for my beautiful son… and I would honestly go through this every single day just to make sure I am able to see his smiling face”.