The role of a bridesmaid is not always an easy one. You’re often asked to do things you may not agree with (like wear a dress you’d never pick yourself), you’re absolutely expected do everything you can to make the bride happy. After all, it’s their day.
But while you do hear of unreasonable requests, it’s a seemingly innocent one that’s causing one bride a lot of stress.
“Hi everyone! I need some advice. I’m paying for someone to do my bridesmaids’ hair. I’m wearing my hair down and curly so I asked the stylist to do all the girls’ hair either up or braided in a fishtail braid,” she wrote on Reddit.
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Listen, this is how it works (in my opinion): You are paying, you can dictate pretty much everything up to forcing dramatic changes like dying/cutting hair. If you are asking your bridesmaids to pay for everything you should be a lot more flexible. I think you should still be able to dictate colour and style to some degree (e.g, shade of green, preferably knee length) but if you're asking them to pay they should have a large degree of freedom.
If this friend is just refusing to wear her hair up for selfish reasons like "I want to show my hair off", despite the bride being otherwise flexible and paying for the appointment, it just sound like she's the one being an unreasonable cow. Crappy bridesmaid if you ask me.
It is an equally crappy bridezilla to make this a big issue. Not everybody looks good with their hair up.
How is she being a bridezille when she has let her bridesmaids everything else? All she is asking is for similar hairstyles. The bridesmaid appears to be trying a "look at me with my green hair aren't I cool" thing. It's an awful thing to do to someone who is obviously a friend. It is awful to not let a bride choose the one thing she wants for her bridal party.
That's for the bride to decide. They're her wedding photos. So long as the bridesmaid can change back at the end of the day (i.e. bride is not requesting hair cut, permed or dyed), how is it possibly reasonable to object?
Part of the deal of being a bridesmaid is wearing an outfit/ensemble of the bride's choice, it's her special day and clearly she has a "vision" and the bridesmaid should be happy their friend thinks so much of them as to be included in bridal party. If she insists on wearing her hair down (green? WTF? This is not 1996 anyway) she can be a regular guest and whatever she likes.