Breakups are bloody f**king hard. There's no better way to say it.
It can be especially difficult when you think you've found someone who you believed would be there for the long haul, but for reasons often unbeknownst to you - they just weren't.
But believe us when we say this; we've all been there.
And so to make us feel a little less alone, Mamamia asked 10 women to anonymously share their experience in having sex for the first time after a major breakup. To find out how it went, if it helped, and where it led to.
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Here's what they had to say.
"I had sex 23 months after my first big breakup, and my partner and I were together for six months before we decided to go our separate ways. Having sex for the first time after that felt... therapeutic. I had judged myself for waiting for so long, but I didn't want to have sex just to have sex. I wouldn't have enjoyed it if I had forced myself to get back into it straight away.
"While it was a positive experience, it was also difficult because it really was just a hook-up on his part. Which is fine as they didn't have feelings, and realistically I didn't really either. But it would have been nice to not feel like a 'hit it and quit it' type of thing.
"In retrospect, I would have started my healing process earlier, so I'd have had the confidence to put myself out there sooner. Twenty-three months was right for me, but it could have been drastically shorter if I had put in the work to fix whatever insecurities I had.
"My advice to someone having sex for the first time after a big breakup would be not to rush just to feel like you are worth something. Take your time. Please enjoy yourself and USE A CONDOM (if a penis is involved, of course)."